Simple 10-Minute Guide to a Strong Orgasm

Find a private, comfortable place to sit or lie down. Have lube nearby if you use it. Get undressed, take a few slow breaths, and settle in so you can relax.

Gently hold your penis and use a loose grip for slow, light strokes along the shaft. Keep it easy. You can cup your testicles softly with your other hand if that feels nice.

Wrap your whole hand around the shaft and stroke slowly from base to head. Keep the pressure light and notice the feeling as you pass over the head.

Use two fingers or a loose grip just on the head. Focus on the frenulum, the sensitive spot on the underside. Use small, gentle strokes or circles. Stay slow.

Go back to a full or medium grip. As you stroke up, add a slight twist of the wrist. Keep the pace relaxed and vary the pressure a little.

Stroke a bit faster. With your other hand, gently hold or roll your testicles. You can also press lightly on the perineum, the spot between your testicles and anus, if it feels good.

Speed up until you feel yourself getting close, then slow way down or pause for a few seconds. Breathe and let the urge fade a little. This helps make the finish stronger.

Start stroking again, mixing full grip and head focus. Change speed and pressure. When you get close, slow down once more and squeeze your pelvic floor (kegels) a few times as you ease off.

Pick up the pace using whatever grip feels best. Keep attention on the frenulum and head. Press the perineum if you like. Get close but stay in control.

Stroke at the speed and pressure that feels most intense. When you reach the point of no return, keep going and squeeze your kegels as you orgasm. Let it fully wash over you.