At age 13, you and your friend are entering puberty and may be curious about sexual feelings. It’s normal to feel this way, but there are important facts to consider before acting on these feelings.
Key Considerations
- Consent and comfort: You both agree, which is good, but either of you can change your mind at any time.
- Privacy and legality: In many places, sexual activity between minors can have legal consequences, even if both agree. It’s important to understand local laws.
- Emotional impact: Exploring sexual feelings can change friendships. Be prepared to talk openly about feelings and boundaries.
Practical Guidance
Before trying anything, both of you should:
- Wash your hands to prevent spreading germs.
- Find a private, safe space where you won’t be interrupted.
- Set clear boundaries about what each person is comfortable doing.
If you decide to proceed, the safest option is for each person to touch only themselves (mutual masturbation) rather than touching each other. This lowers the risk of sexually transmitted infections and unintended pregnancy.
Health and Safety Reminders
- Never share sex toys or objects that could cause injury.
- Use tissues or towels for cleanup.
- If anything feels uncomfortable or painful, stop immediately.
- Keep any exploration private and away from cameras or the internet.
Important: At 13, your body and brain are still developing. Many experts recommend waiting until you are older and in a committed relationship before engaging in sexual activity with another person. Talking to a trusted adult or healthcare provider can give you more guidance.
If you have questions about puberty, consent, or your changing body, it’s okay to ask. Remember that your health and safety come first.