During penetrative sex, the penis should be gently guided into the vagina or anus rather than simply laid on top. Laying it on top does not allow for penetration and can cause discomfort or friction burns on sensitive skin.
Step-by-step guidance
- Consent and communication: Always confirm that your partner is comfortable and ready before any penetration.
- Adequate lubrication: Use plenty of water-based lubricant to reduce friction and tearing.
- Angle and pressure: Hold the base of the penis and angle it toward the opening. Apply gentle, steady pressure; if significant resistance is felt, stop and add more lube or change position.
- Listen to your body: Pain is a signal to pause. Discomfort usually means more foreplay, lubrication, or a different angle is needed.
Safety notes
- Never force penetration; doing so can cause tears or injury.
- Use condoms correctly to prevent STIs and unintended pregnancy.
- If either partner experiences ongoing pain, consult a healthcare provider.
Everyone’s anatomy is different, so patience and open communication help ensure a positive experience. If you have specific concerns about comfort or technique, a doctor or sexual-health clinician can provide personalized advice.