Important note

This topic involves sexual behavior. It’s important to approach it with consent, safety, and respect for yourself and others. If you have questions or concerns, consider speaking with a healthcare professional or a trusted adult.

Step-by-step guide

  1. Prepare safely
    • Wash your hands with soap and water before starting.
    • Use a clean, unused condom of a size that fits you well. Read the condom package for proper use.
    • Lubrication can help. Use water-based or silicone-based lubricant if needed. Do not use oil-based lubricants with latex condoms.
  2. Check the condom
    • Carefully open the package without tearing the condom.
    • Pinch the tip of the condom to leave space for semen, then roll it down to the base of the penis.
  3. Be comfortable with the condom first
    • Gently feel the condom on the penis while soft to begin with, without moving into arousal. This helps you get used to the sensation.
    • If it feels uncomfortable, remove it carefully, re-wrap, and try again with a new condom.
  4. Move at your own pace
    • When you feel ready, you can start with light touch to the penis with or without stimulation that you find comfortable.
    • Gradually explore different pressures and motions to understand what feels best while keeping the condom on.
  5. Introduce masturbation with the condom
    • Maintain a comfortable pace that you control. There is no rush; the goal is familiarization.
    • If you experience sensitivity or discomfort, pause, adjust the grip, or remove the condom and try again with a new one.
  6. Focus on safety and hygiene
    • Never use a condom that is torn, expired, or damaged.
    • Dispose of used condoms in a trash bin. Do not flush them.
    • Wash hands after finishing.
  7. Aftercare and reflection
    • Take a moment to reflect on what felt comfortable and what didn’t.
    • If you have questions about sexual health, consider talking to a healthcare provider or counselor who is knowledgeable about autism and sexuality.
  8. Privacy and respect
    • Ensure you are in a private, safe space where you feel comfortable.
    • Respect your own boundaries and those of others when discussing sexual topics.