Important note about sexual health at a young age

Talking about puberty and masturbation is normal, but it’s also important to approach it safely, privately, and with accurate information. If you have questions about sex, your body, or puberty, consider talking to a trusted adult, parent, or healthcare provider.

What is masturbation?

Masturbation is when someone touches their own genitals for sexual pleasure. It’s a private topic, and people begin exploring their bodies at different ages during puberty. There is no rush to engage in any activity, and there is no "normal" amount or pace.

What to know about your body at age 12

  • Your body is growing and changing. You may notice erections, new sensations, or body hair as part of puberty.
  • Penises come in different sizes, and 7 inches is within the typical range for adults; for pre-teens, sizes vary widely as the body develops.
  • Understanding consent and privacy is important. Masturbation is something many people do in private.

Safety and privacy guidelines

  • Do it in a private, safe space where you won’t be interrupted.
  • Wash your hands before and after to keep clean and prevent infections.
  • Avoid sharing explicit images or videos; do not touch others without explicit consent.
  • There is no need to rush or force sexual experiences. It’s okay to wait until you feel ready and informed.

What to expect and common questions

  1. What feel-good sensations? Pelvic and genital sensations can feel different as you grow. It may involve arousal, which can lead to an erection.
  2. Can you have an orgasm? Some people experience ejaculation or orgasm during masturbation; others do not. Both are normal.
  3. Is it harmful? When done privately, safely, and without forcing anything, masturbation is generally considered a normal part of puberty. It isn’t a substitute for healthy communication or consent in relationships.

When to seek help

  • If you have questions about your development, sexual health, or if you feel confused or distressed, speak with a trusted adult or healthcare provider.
  • If someone makes you uncomfortable or pressures you into sexual activity, seek help from a trusted adult, school counselor, or local health services.

Bottom line

puberty brings new feelings and bodies. It’s normal to be curious, but it’s important to learn safely, respect your privacy, and talk to a trusted adult if you have questions or concerns.