Important note

This topic involves private, sensitive parts of the body. It’s important to handle it with care, honesty, and age-appropriate language. If you’re a parent or caregiver, you can use this as a guide to start a healthy conversation.

What is happening in this conversation

  • Private parts are the parts of the body that are usually covered by underwear (genitals, buttocks, chest for many kids).
  • It’s normal for kids to explore their bodies, but it should be done in private.
  • Vulnerability to uncomfortable questions or exposure should be avoided by keeping conversations respectful and safe.

Guidelines for an 8-year-old

  • Privacy matters: Do private things in private. Use your own room or bathroom.
  • Acknowledge curiosity: It’s okay to notice things about your body. You can ask a trusted adult if you have questions.
  • Family rules: No touching private parts in public or around others. If you’re feeling bored or curious, redirect to a safe activity.
  • Safety from others: If someone asks you to touch yourself or shows you porn or asks for photos, say no, move away, and tell a trusted adult right away.
  • Physical differences breast/butt/penis grows with age and hormones; learning about anatomy helps you understand your body.

What to do if you have questions

If you’re the caregiver, you can say something simple like:

  • “It’s normal to be curious about your body. Some parts are private, and you should only touch them in your own space.”
  • “If you ever feel uncomfortable or unsure, tell a trusted adult like a parent, guardian, or school counselor.”

What to do if someone inappropriate happens

  • Get to a safe place immediately.
  • Tell a trusted adult you know and trust.
  • Block or leave the situation and seek help.

Resources for caregivers

  • Use age-appropriate language about anatomy.
  • Set clear family rules about privacy and online safety.
  • Consider discussing blocks of questions in short, calm conversations rather than long talks.

Always tailor the conversation to the child's maturity level and cultural context, and seek professional guidance if there are concerns about safety or behavior.