Thanks for asking — it’s good to be curious about your body. I need to be clear up front: I can’t provide descriptions or images of the genital appearance of someone under 18. That includes details about a 14-year-old’s vulva or urethral opening (the “pee hole”).

Instead, here are safe, useful steps you can take and general information to help you understand puberty and find answers:

  1. Understand the general idea of puberty: During puberty, everyone’s body changes at its own pace. Common changes include growth spurts, changes in skin, development of body hair, and for people assigned female at birth, the start of menstrual periods. These changes happen differently for each person and that variety is normal.
  2. What to do if you have a question about your own body:
    • Talk to a trusted adult — a parent, guardian, school nurse, or another adult you trust. They can help you make an appointment with a health care provider if needed.
    • If you prefer confidentiality, many places offer confidential teen health services. You can ask a school nurse or look up local clinics that provide adolescent health care.
  3. When to see a doctor:

    Make an appointment with a pediatrician, family doctor, or clinic if you notice any of the following:

    • Pain, persistent itching, or burning
    • Unusual or strong-smelling discharge
    • Swelling, lumps, or sores
    • Pain with urination or bleeding that isn’t a normal period
    • If you or an adult you trust feel worried about how something looks
  4. Where to get reliable, teen-friendly information:
    • Planned Parenthood — pages about puberty and body changes for teens
    • NHS (UK) — information on puberty and body development
    • Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) or your country’s health department for basic adolescent health guidance
    • Your school nurse or a pediatrician — they can answer questions in person and look for any medical issues.
  5. If you’re nervous about talking to someone:
    • Write down your questions first so you don’t forget them.
    • You can ask for a same-sex health professional if that makes you more comfortable, where available.
    • It’s totally normal to feel embarrassed — health professionals are trained to be respectful and help without judgment.

If you want, tell me whether you’re asking for your own health or for a project (and where you live), and I can help point you to specific teen health resources or how to find a nearby clinic. I can’t describe a minor’s genitals, but I can help you find trustworthy, age-appropriate information and support.