About your body — a simple guide for 10-year-olds

Sometimes kids notice parts of their bodies and find that touching them feels nice. That is a common thing and it happens to many people. You are not alone and you are not bad or broken for feeling this.

What you should know

  • It is normal for your body to change and for you to be curious about those feelings.
  • Touching your own body is a private thing. It should only be done when you are alone and somewhere private, like your bedroom or bathroom with the door closed.
  • You should never touch someone else in a sexual way and no one should touch you in a sexual way without your clear permission. That is called consent.

How to stay safe

  • Keep it private — do not do it where other people can see or where you might get in trouble (school, public places, around other people).
  • Wash your hands before and after you touch your body to avoid germs.
  • Do not use objects that could hurt you or get stuck. If anything hurts or makes you bleed, stop and tell a trusted adult or a doctor.
  • If you ever feel like you can’t stop, or you are doing it a lot and it gets in the way of school, friends, or sleep, tell a parent, school nurse, or doctor so they can help.

What to do if someone pressures you or touches you

  • If someone asks you to touch them, or shows you things that make you uncomfortable, or touches you in a way you don’t like, that is not okay. It is not your fault.
  • Tell a trusted adult right away — a parent, caregiver, teacher, school counselor, or the school nurse. If you don’t feel safe telling them, tell another adult you trust or call a help line for children in your area.

Questions and talking about it

If you feel confused, embarrassed, or guilty because of what family, religion, or friends say, that’s okay to feel. It can help to talk to a trusted adult who will listen without judging. You can also ask a doctor or school nurse questions if you’re worried about your body.

If you want, write down your questions or how you feel before talking — that can make it easier. If you ever feel scared or unsafe, tell someone right away.

Remember: curiosity about your body is normal, but it should be private and safe. You can always ask a trusted adult for help or answers.