First — you’re okay. It’s normal to feel happy and also uncertain after a new sexual experience. Below is a clear, step-by-step guide about physical safety, emotional processing, and practical next steps.

1) Immediate physical safety and hygiene

  • Wash your face gently with water/cleanser as soon as you like. Try to avoid scrubbing if skin is irritated.
  • If semen got in your mouth, spit and rinse with water. That alone is not usually dangerous; if you have concerns (e.g., mouth sores, bleeding gums), mention them to a clinician.
  • If anything got into your eyes, flush with water and see a clinician if irritation or redness persists.

2) Pregnancy risk (if you had vaginal sex)

  • If you had unprotected vaginal intercourse, pregnancy is possible. Whether you should act depends on what birth control you or your partner used.
  • Emergency contraception (EC) options:
    • Levonorgestrel pill (Plan B) — most effective if taken as soon as possible, up to 72 hours after sex (some benefit up to 120 hours, but effectiveness falls with time).
    • Ulipristal acetate (ella) — more effective than Plan B for later use and works up to 120 hours; requires a prescription in some places.
    • Copper IUD — the most effective EC; can be inserted up to 5 days after unprotected sex and also serves as ongoing contraception.
  • If you think pregnancy is possible and are within the time window, consider getting EC ASAP. You can get Plan B at many pharmacies without a prescription; clinics can provide ella or a copper IUD.

3) STI risk and testing

  • Oral sex and semen on the face can transmit some STIs. Common ones with oral/genital transmission include gonorrhea, chlamydia (less commonly via oral), herpes (HSV), syphilis, HPV. HIV transmission from semen on intact skin is extremely unlikely; risk increases if semen gets into mouth, eyes, or open wounds.
  • What to do:
    • Ask your partner about their STI testing history and status — ideally they’ve been recently tested.
    • Consider getting tested yourself. A good plan: baseline testing now (to document current status and treat if needed), then follow-up testing per clinic advice. Many clinics recommend repeat testing at 2–4 weeks for some exposures and at 3 months for full confirmation. HIV 4th-generation tests can detect infection earlier (often 2–4 weeks), but confirm timing with your clinic.
    • Where to get tested: Planned Parenthood, sexual health clinics, community health centers, or your primary care provider.

4) Emotional processing — normal reactions

  • It’s normal to feel happy, excited, proud, curious, surprised, anxious, or some mix of these. All are valid reactions.
  • Ask yourself: Did you feel enthusiastic and comfortable during the encounter? Did you feel pressured or unsure at any point? How do you feel about repeating it in the future?
  • If you feel conflicted or distressed, talking with a trusted friend, counselor, or sexual-health educator can help you sort it out.

5) Consent and communication with your partner

  • You did consent in the moment, and it’s okay now to check in about how each of you felt.
  • Good topics to talk about: contraception and pregnancy plans, STI testing and results, what you liked and didn’t like, and boundaries about facials or other acts in the future.
  • Simple scripts you can use: 
    "I liked that we were close last night. I want to check in — how did you feel about what happened?"
"I enjoyed it, but I want us to talk about STI testing and contraception before we do it again."
"I’m okay with what happened, but next time I’d prefer we [use a condom/change something/set a boundary]."

6) When to see a clinician sooner

  • If you or your partner have known STI symptoms (discharge, sores, unusual pain, fever).
  • If you think you had unprotected vaginal sex and want EC (time-sensitive).
  • If you have mouth sores, bleeding gums, or other wounds that were exposed to semen and you’re worried about HIV or other infections.

7) Practical next steps (a checklist)

  1. Decide if emergency contraception is needed — get it ASAP if risk of pregnancy.
  2. Talk with your partner about STI testing and contraceptive use.
  3. Get baseline STI testing at a clinic and follow any recommended repeat tests.
  4. Take time to reflect or talk through how you feel; set or reaffirm boundaries for the future.

If you want, I can help you draft a message to your boyfriend, walk through which STI tests to ask for, or find local clinics/clinicians near you. You’re not alone and it’s great you’re checking in about this.