Intro — consent, safety and hygiene (read first)

Before any sexual activity: have explicit consent, agree boundaries and a safe word for stopping. Use condoms and water-based or silicone lube for penetrative acts; consider latex or nitrile gloves and dental dams for oral-on-anus contact. Trim and file fingernails, wash hands and genitals, and avoid switching directly between anus and mouth without changing barriers or cleaning. Communicate about pressure, speed, depth and comfort throughout.

10 fellatio / (consensual) irrumatio techniques

1. Basic mouth-and-hand coordination

   Seal lips around the glans (head) and use the hand to stroke the shaft in rhythm with the mouth. Vary the hand’s position (near base or mid-shaft) to change sensation and take pressure off the jaw.

2. Focus on the frenulum and glans

   Use the tongue tip to circle the glans and trace the frenulum (underside ridge) while maintaining a light lip seal. Gentle, rhythmic pressure there is often especially sensitive.

3. Suction control

   Use the cheeks and throat to create light suction on the glans and upper shaft. Vary strength slowly, and coordinate with the hand to keep a comfortable rhythm.

4. Hand-dominant, mouth-assisted

   Make the hand do most of the stroking on the shaft while the mouth focuses on the glans, perineum kisses, or light licks. This reduces need for deep oral insertion and is good for jaw comfort.

5. Tongue rolling and spiral strokes

   Use the tongue to roll around the glans or spiral along the shaft, combined with gentle up-and-down motion of the lips. Slow and textured motion can be very pleasurable.

6. ‘Glans-only’ technique

   Keep the mouth on the head only, using lips and tongue; stimulate the rest of the shaft with the hand and the scrotum lightly with fingers. This is low-strain for the mouth and good for partners who prefer less deep oral contact.

7. Perineum and testicular attention

   Use the tongue or mouth to kiss and lick the perineum (skin between scrotum and anus) and use fingers to cup or roll the scrotum and testicles. Gentle, supportive touch matters—avoid squeezing the testicles roughly.

8. Paced irrumatio (consensual thrusting rhythm)

   In consensual irrumatio the penetrating partner controls gentle forward motion while the mouth receives—keep all movement slow, communicate depth tolerance, and combine with hand support on the base of the shaft to control depth and protect the throat.

9. Teasing and edging

   Alternate focused oral stimulation on the glans and frenulum with periods of kissing the inner thighs, perineum, or light oral attention to the scrotum. Use tempo changes to build and control arousal.

10. Alternative angles for comfort

    Try side-lying positions, a seated partner, or the receiver reclining with a pillow under hips to change angle and make deep oral less necessary. Support the jaw and use hand-stroking to adjust depth and sensation.

10 foreplay activities that include genital play

1. Mutual hand stimulation

   Face each other and stroke each other’s penis and scrotum with lubricant, paying attention to the glans, frenulum and shaft. Match speed and pressure and communicate what feels best.

2. Nipple and inner-thigh-to-genital teasing

   Alternate light bites or licks on nipples and the inner thighs, then move to long kisses toward the base of the penis or scrotum to build anticipation.

3. Perineal massage

   With lube, press and massage the perineum externally; steady pressure can stimulate the prostate indirectly. Ask about pressure and stop if it’s uncomfortable.

4. Mutual masturbation with shared rhythm

   Sit or lie facing each other and masturbate in sync or mirror each other’s motions. Use this time to share what pace and pressure you like.

5. Scrotal care

   Gently cup, roll and massage the testicles and the skin of the scrotum. Keep movements slow and supportive; avoid sharp pinching unless it’s explicitly discussed and consented to.

6. Light anal play with lubrication

   External anal massage or gentle single-finger stimulation (well-lubed, trimmed nails) while stimulating the penis. If going internal, start very slowly, use plenty of lube, and communicate continuously.

7. Oral teases

   Use the lips and tongue to tease the base of the penis, the glans, and the perineum without committing to full oral; alternate with manual stimulation.

8. Temperature play

   Use warm or cool objects (e.g., a warm mouthful of water, a cooled massage stone) near the genital area to vary sensation. Test temperature on another body area first to avoid burns.

9. Prostate-focused play (external and internal if desired)

   Finger pressure on the perineum can give prostate sensation; if internal prostate stimulation is desired, sanitize hands, use gloves and lube, and go slow. Discuss goals and comfort ahead of time.

10. Slow full-body contact

    Lie skin-to-skin and explore each other’s genitals with gentle strokes while kissing and holding. This builds intimacy and lets you tune into each other’s responses.

10 anal sex positions (comfort-focused)

1. Spooning (rear entry, side-by-side)

   Both partners lie on their sides with the penetrating partner behind. Good for slow, shallow entry and full-body contact; a pillow between knees adds comfort.

2. Doggy-style (hands-and-knees)

   The receptive partner on hands and knees; the penetrating partner enters from behind. Provides control over angle; place a pillow under hips to change depth and angle.

3. Modified missionary (receiver on back, legs raised)

   The receiver lies on their back with legs bent or draped over the partner’s shoulders; this allows eye contact and hands-free support of legs for depth control.

4. Receiver on top (cowboy/reverse)

   The receptive partner straddles the penetrating partner, either face-to-face (cowboy) or facing away (reverse). The receiver controls depth, angle and speed—excellent for comfort and communication.

5. Edge of the bed

   The receiver lies on their back at the edge of the bed with hips at the edge while the penetrating partner stands or kneels. This position allows the penetrating partner easy depth control and eye contact.

6. Lap-sitting (face-to-face)

   The receiver sits on the penetrating partner’s lap facing them; both can control movement and angle. Good for shallow entry and intimacy.

7. Standing from behind

   Both standing, the receiver slightly bent forward with hands supported. This position requires balance but allows different angles; use a wall for support.

8. Side-by-side, facing opposite directions

   Lie on your sides with legs stacked and the penetrating partner behind. It’s similar to spoons but can allow slightly deeper, adjustable angles without much strain.

9. Tabletop / on-knees lean

   The receiver leans over a surface (table or bed) while the penetrating partner stands or kneels behind. Good for changing angle and depth with body mechanics.

10. Prostrate tilt (pillow under hips)

    Receiver lies on their back with a firm pillow under the hips to tilt the pelvis upward; the penetrating partner kneels. The tilt can make entry shallower and more prostate-focused.

For anal sex: always use a generous amount of lube, go slowly, breathe and relax. Start with a well-lubed finger or small plug if the receiver is new to anal penetration. Use condoms for penis-anal contact and change or clean before oral contact.

5 safer ways to do 69 (mutual oral) + precautions

1. Side-lying 69 (spooning)

   Lie on your sides facing opposite directions so you can both reach. This is low-strain on the neck and easy to breathe, and good for longer sessions.

2. Sixty-nine on the edge of the bed

   One partner lies on the bed with hips at the edge while the other kneels or stands. This keeps the neck neutral for the top partner and gives easier access for the bottom partner.

3. Seated face-to-face (mutual lap)

   Both partners sit facing each other, knees bent and chests close. This allows eye contact and mutual control of depth and angle; good if one or both have back or neck sensitivity.

4. Propped 69 (pillows for support)

   Use pillows under the head and shoulders of the upper partner so both have good breathing room and neck support. Adjust pillow height to reduce strain.

5. Standing-supported 69

   One partner stands while the other is supported (e.g., lifted or on a raised surface) for brief, supported mutual oral. Only attempt if both partners are comfortable and able to maintain balance safely.

Precautions for 69: use condoms on penises and dental dams for oral-on-anus or oral-on-genital contact if either partner wants barrier protection. Never go from oral-on-anus to oral-on-penis or mouth without changing the condom/dental dam or thoroughly cleaning, to avoid infection transfer. Communicate and pause if either partner feels discomfort or difficulty breathing.

Final tips

• Communicate continuously: ask about pressure, rhythm, and whether to speed up or slow down.
• Use plenty of lube for anal and for hands in contact with genitals; it reduces friction and risk of tearing.
• Condoms protect against many STIs during penetrative sex; consider regular testing and honest discussion of status.
• Stop if there’s sharp pain, heavy bleeding, or discomfort that doesn’t ease with adjustments. Seek medical advice if needed.

If you want, I can tailor these lists to specific comfort or mobility needs, or give step-by-step guidance for one position or technique you and your partner want to try.