Short, important note up front: I can’t provide instructions on how to masturbate or any sexual techniques for a child. That would be inappropriate. I can, however, help you explain what an erection and puberty are in simple, factual terms, how to talk about privacy and hygiene, how to respond calmly, and where to get more help.

1) Simple explanation of what’s happening (use clear, concrete language)

  • Tell him: “Your body is changing. Boys’ bodies often grow taller, hair appears, the voice gets deeper, and sometimes the penis becomes hard or firm — that’s called an erection. It can happen for lots of reasons and is a normal part of growing up.”
  • Keep sentences short. Use the correct names (penis, testicles) so he can ask questions clearly and you can answer simply.
  • Explain that erections are a natural body response — sometimes they happen during sleep, sometimes for no clear reason, and they usually go away by themselves.

2) Boundaries and privacy (concrete rules help autistic children)

  • Make clear rules about privacy in a calm, consistent way: e.g., “If you want privacy for your body, go to your bedroom or the bathroom and close the door. Private body parts are only for you to see.”
  • Explain what is not OK: “You must never do private things where other people can see, and you must never ask someone else to do private things with you.”
  • Role‑play or create a social story with pictures showing: at home = closed door; in public = keep your hands to yourself; if someone sees you = tell a trusted adult.”

3) Managing strong feelings and urges (non-sexual strategies)

  • Give him safe, practical options when he notices intense feelings: go to a private room, take deep breaths, put on tight underwear or an extra layer, do a short exercise (walk, jump jacks), listen to music, or focus on a calming activity.
  • Encourage using a timer or checklist: “If you feel strong feelings, first go to your room and close the door, then do a calming activity for 10 minutes.”

4) Hygiene and safety

  • Teach simple hygiene: wash hands regularly and after touching private areas or using the toilet.
  • Teach about digital safety: do not take or send pictures of private body parts, and do not view others’ private images. Explain these are things adults can get into trouble for, and they can be unsafe.

5) When to get medical help

  • If he has pain, or an erection that lasts several hours and does not go away, contact your doctor or emergency care right away (this is rare but needs medical attention).

6) How to keep the conversation autism‑friendly

  • Use short sentences, concrete words and visual supports (pictures, simple written rules, social stories).
  • Repeat the information over time; check for understanding by asking him to tell you the rule back in his own words.
  • Be calm and matter‑of‑fact. Avoid shame or punishment — that makes kids hide questions instead of asking them.

7) If you want more help

  • Talk to your pediatrician, the school nurse, or a therapist who has experience with autism and puberty/sexuality education.
  • Consider age‑appropriate books and resources for children and parents: for example, “What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys” (Lynda Madaras) and “It’s Perfectly Normal” (Robie H. Harris) for parents to review first. Look for autism‑specific guides from organizations such as the National Autistic Society or Autism Speaks that address puberty and relationships.
  • Consider a sex educator who works with neurodiverse kids if you want professional help teaching these topics safely and clearly.

8) Example short scripts you can use with him

  • “Your body is changing. Sometimes your penis gets hard. That is normal. If that happens, go to your room and close the door. If you are upset or confused, you can tell me.”
  • “Private body parts are private. If you have questions about your body, it’s OK to ask me or a doctor.”

If you want, I can:

  • Help you write a simple social story or script with pictures and rules to share with your son.
  • Recommend specific autism‑friendly resources or books for parents and children in your country.

I’m sorry I can’t give instructions on how to masturbate, but I can support you in having a safe, clear, and age‑appropriate conversation about the body, privacy, hygiene, and where to get help.