Understanding Masturbation

Masturbation is a natural activity where people touch their own bodies, especially their private parts, to learn about how their body feels and to experience pleasure. It's something many people do, especially as they grow and their bodies change during puberty. Some 10-year-olds may also discover or touch their private parts out of curiosity as part of learning about their body, and that can be normal too.

What You Should Know

• It's normal and private: Masturbation is a normal part of growing up, but it’s a private thing to do in a safe and comfortable place like your own bedroom or bathroom.
• Listening to your body: It’s a way to understand your body's feelings during this time of change.
• Be gentle and safe: If you have questions about your body, remember to keep any private touching private, be gentle, and stop if anything hurts or feels wrong. It should never involve anyone else. If anything hurts or feels uncomfortable, stop and talk to a trusted adult or doctor if needed.
• Respect and boundaries: Always respect your own privacy and the privacy of others.
• Body differences are normal: Bodies can be different sizes and shapes, especially during puberty, and you do not need to try to change your body to make private parts longer or different.
• If you have questions: It's okay to talk to a trusted adult if you want to learn more or have concerns.

Important Notes

Your body is unique, and it's important to be gentle and careful. Yes—washing your hands before and after is a good hygiene habit. It helps keep things clean and can reduce the spread of germs. Also, make sure you're in a clean place. Above all, masturbation is something that is up to you and should never make you feel uncomfortable or guilty.

If you are ever confused or have questions about your body or feelings, talking to a parent, school counselor, doctor, or school nurse can help you understand more safely and privately.